Saturday, July 13, 2024

Judging Someone’s Pain without Knowing Their Past

by Dr. Kenneth Kuykendall

A few days ago I brushed up against the leg of Brady, my ten-year old son. Without hesitation he went berserk. Dramatically he started moaning, groaning and complaining about how much I hurt him.

Of course I was thinking this was overkill on his part; I knew that I had barely touched his leg. As he proceeded with the theatrics I actually became somewhat annoyed by his drama. You could imagine how I felt when he pulled up his pants leg and showed me his wound from the previous day’s fall out on the concrete. I had no idea what had happened to him the day before. I was measuring his response by the wrong experience!

After I realized Brady had previously fallen, I proceeded to get out the peroxide, wash his leg, and bandage it up. Once I recognized his pain, I was better suited to bring him comfort.

Oftentimes we become aggravated with people’s responses in life- we wonder why some are critical, mean-spirited, and even hateful. But the truth is we rarely know what has brought someone to that point. We judge their “hurt” without knowing their history. We criticize their pain without knowing their past. There are people you come into contact with every day that are hurting in some area of their life; and it doesn’t take much for them to overreact. But if the truth were known, they are just looking for someone to help them find some relief. Someone you meet today stands in need of encouragement. Fight their contention with compassion realizing that more than likely they are still in pain from yesterday’s fall.


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  1. The idea is very good, but some times we judge other peoples pain and hurt as being a consequence of sin and we are of often wrong in doing so. Jesus said that some ailments come only for the honor and glory of God. So that they can be healed by Jesus. Some generational curses come from generation to generation but Jesus can heal them and stop the cycle.


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