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by Grace Raab

Why do I wear skirts full time?

As a little girl and as a lady, I have worn skirts and dresses full-time my entire life.

I started doing it because my parents taught me to do so and because it was expected of me by my pastors and church families. I was always told the reasoning for it, but I never truly grasped the importance of this principle until recent years.

I want to say right away that this essay is by no means meant to offend anyone in the smallest measure, but is meant simply to provide explanation to those who have wondered about my peculiar dress code, and also to give clarity to Christian women who have lived this way because it was expected of them, but never really had a personal understanding of why.

There are many different reasons why I believe (based on the Bible) that God would have me wear skirts instead of pants.

God Wants There To Be A Distinction Between The Sexes.


Deuteronomy 22:5 “The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.”

This verse describes a very specific principle of how God thinks about the way men and women should dress. Notice that it doesn’t just say that men shouldn’t dress like women, or that women shouldn’t dress like men; it puts the two in direct contrast with each other.

In 1 Corinthians 11:14-15, it says: Doth not even nature itself teach you, that, if a man have long hair, it is a shame unto him? But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.

This shows that God has a different idea for how men should wear their hair, and how women should wear their hair. We’ve just seen two different passages, one from the Old Testament, one from the New Testament, that portray an attitude of God, how He wants men and women to have a different outward appearance. God does not want men to look like women, and He doesn’t want women to look like men. Have you ever looked at someone from behind and not been totally sure whether you were seeing a male or female? Often, the people you’re viewing are even more confused about their gender than you are (or at least, they appear to be). I’m not saying that every girl who wears pants is necessarily trying to be a cross-dresser, but she is definitely coming a lot closer to it than if she were wearing a skirt.

God intentionally made me a woman, and I am proud to be one. Wearing skirts (obviously a woman’s apparel) is a huge way for me to embrace my God-given femininity, and it keeps me from contributing to the gender confusion that’s becoming so common in our culture today. When women as a society choose to wear clothing that so closely resembles a man‘s, it brings our society that much closer to confusion, and blurs the gender line all the more.

1 Corinthians 14:33 “For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.”

It would take an entirely different Bible study to show all the places where God made men and women different, and how He created them with different roles and expectations, but their appearance is definitely one of the major areas with which God is concerned.

Going back to Deuteronomy 22:5, “The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman’s garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.”

The argument of a lot of Christians today is that this was an Old Testament law, not meant to be adhered to anymore, and even if it were, men and women’s clothing was so different back then that this law could never be applied today. Many of the Mosaic laws were abolished in the New Testament, yes, but this law is a little different than some. If you notice the end of the verse, it says that “all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God.” Sometimes when God gave a law, He addressed it as being an abomination unto the children of Israel only, such as the laws concerning what the Israelites were permitted to eat. This one is listed as an abomination unto the Lord. I don’t know about you, but this is one area where I would rather be safe than sorry. Could I be totally off in my interpretation of Deuteronomy 22:5? I suppose it’s possible, but when dealing with something that says it’s an “abomination unto the LORD thy God”, I would rather not take the risk. It’s just not worth it to me.

Wearing Skirts Easily Adorns A Woman In Modesty.


In my opinion, this reason is about as important as the first, if not more so. Skirts and dresses cover a woman in a modest and beautiful way that pants never can, and never will.

1 Timothy 2:9a “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety…”

Ladies, I’m going to be very blunt here: Have you ever seen what you look like from behind in a pair of pants? I have. I see it every day, and there are very few of you who can get away with it without outlining every curve of your backside. I’m not just talking about loose women of the world, I’m talking about Christian women who want to please God. Maybe it doesn’t look quite as bad when you’re standing still, but as soon as you move or bend at all, that pair of pants becomes extremely revealing of your shape and form. I truly have no desire to be insulting in any way, but it seems like you really just don’t know what you look like, so I am simply trying to be informative while being as honest and straightforward as possible. However, I’m not the one you should be most concerned with; guys are seeing it too.

Matthew 5:28 “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”

Yes, men are responsible for the things they allow their own minds to dwell upon, but do you really want to be the image that prompts them into such fantasies? Some men will have corrupt thoughts no matter how you dress, but they don’t need you to clothe yourself in a way that leaves very little to the imagination. In addition to those types of men, there are also many Christian men out there who are trying to live a life pleasing to God with purity of thoughts and actions, but the way females dress around them –whether it be in tight jeans, a low-cut blouse, or even a short skirt– make it extremely difficult for them to do so. God created men with visually stimulated minds, and we, as Christian women, need to be aware of this. We are responsible for our part in preventing lust of the heart just as much as men are.

James 1:15 “Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.”

Some women do wear pants that aren‘t so bad, and yes, I admit that VERY loose fitting pants are not as revealing, but again, depending on how you move, even those can fit a little snugly. But do you really want to walk around in baggy pants? Sometimes that’s when women blur their gender identity the most, to be honest. The only real difference I’ve noticed between men’s jeans and women’s jeans is the body inside them. Ultimately, when a woman wears pants, she either looks sloppy or sexy. Still, some women continue to cling to their reasonings.

“You can’t do the things in a skirt that you can in pants.”

This is probably the most popular argument for why women don’t want to wear skirts: They’re inconvenient, and they supposedly hinder one’s ability to perform daily activities. Well… I am completely unimpressed with this argument. I have climbed trees, climbed ladders, ridden horses, ridden bicycles, played sports, gone roller-skating, gone rock climbing, detasseled corn (often climbing up and down a tractor), I’ve worked a job, and I never once put on a pair of pants. I do have one pair of waterproof sweatpants that I wear for shoveling snow or activities like skiing or sledding, but I’ve always worn them underneath a skirt. I’m really not trying to brag here, but there are just so many things a girl can easily do in a skirt!

When I was very young, I used to wear shorts underneath my clothes while playing, but only because five-year-olds haven’t learned to be lady-like yet. And it’s true, even some grown-up girls haven’t learned how to act in a skirt and can unintentionally be very immodest while wearing one because of the way they move, but it’s just a matter of learning to be appropriate, and when necessary, it’s just better to wear something underneath to be safe. It’s much easier, however, for girls to learn how to act properly in a skirt if they start wearing them from childhood. For others, it just takes a little getting used to and an awareness of your appearance. I promise skirts are very easy and comfortable to wear! But that’s only one excuse given for why skirts aren’t acceptable as full-time attire.

“Christian women who only wear skirts are legalists.”

Another argument some women give for why they don’t think it’s necessary to always wear skirts is that it’s legalistic. I would like to clarify now that there is not one standard in my life that I practice out of legalism. Legalism is a person following certain religious laws in order to earn their way to Heaven. I know very well that whether a woman wears pants or dresses, it does not affect her security of a home in Heaven, and it would be ridiculous to think so. The only thing that saves a person and takes them to Heaven is their trust in Christ to cleanse their sins with the blood He shed for them. I also do not believe that the Christian life is merely a list of rules and regulations that must be obeyed in order to stay on God’s good side.

I fail all the time, but every belief I hold and try to live is just an attempt to please my Savior who created me, gave His life for me, and has a purpose for me. In His word, God teaches that a woman should look different than a man and that a woman should be modest; that is why I dress the way I do. I don’t do it to try to appear better than anyone else, or because I think the way someone looks on the outside is all that matters. I have known and loved many wonderful, sincere Christian ladies who don‘t wear dresses all the time, and I by no means find them inferior to me or believe that I am better than they are, but that does not make my conviction any less resolute.

“It doesn’t matter how I dress, because God only looks on the heart.”

Here is yet another reason why some women don’t find it necessary to dress modestly (not just referring to pants), or even wear their hair in a way that pleases God. And they use the verse 1 Samuel 16:7 to defend their position.

“But the Lord said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart.”

This is a wonderful verse, but there’s just one problem. If you read this in context, God is speaking about a person’s appearance as far as height, color, etc. It’s not talking about the way a person deliberately chooses to adorn themselves. How tall you are, or how beautiful you are, or how blue your eyes are, is not something that speaks of your character. However, the way you honor God in your clothing is entirely up to you, and is a reflection of what is in your heart. God does, in fact, care about the way we present ourselves.

1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”

One more word about modesty: Ladies, when you dress in a way that reveals the form of your body, you’re not only inviting men to lust after you, you’re putting yourself in danger. I have seen many dear, Christian ladies that are close to my heart do this unintentionally, and I am sincerely trying to protect you. I have worked in the customer service arena for nearly three years, and I have had very few and minor experiences with men coming on to me (even in spite of the friendly, ditsy personality that I have!), and I truly believe that I can attribute much of this to the way I dress. Guys generally go after easy prey. They see me, I give them nothing for their imagination to build on, and they know that I’m not interested. But they also can guess pretty well that a girl wearing a skirt in the workplace is probably a Christian, and that especially tells them that I’m not interested… Which brings me to my final point.

A Lady Wearing A Skirt Is Easily Identified As A Christian.


Not only does a woman in a modest skirt or dress look feminine, lady-like, and beautiful, but she often makes it quite obvious that she’s a Christian. Yes, I have gotten some pretty funny looks from people who’ve seen me going about my life in a skirt (especially when in a group of multiple ladies wearing skirts), but to be quite honest, I love that. I love that I have a way of so boldly proclaiming that I’m a follower of Christ, without even saying a word. Of course, this is only one area in which a woman can outwardly display her faith in God, but I’ve found it to be one of the most recognizable, simply because so few women do it anymore. There was a time not too long ago in our country when it was against dress regulations for a girl to wear pants in a public school. We’ve come a long way since then! But this means that Christian women have more opportunity than ever to display their separation to Christ.

I’ve had so many occasions to discuss Jesus with people, often total strangers, that I probably would’ve never been able to talk to had they not inquired about my uncommon dress standards. I’ve also had the pleasure of meeting other Christian ladies that just walked up to me in the middle of a grocery store and delightedly said “You must be a Christian.“ I’m not making this up!

Matthew 5:16 “Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.”

Don’t miss out on this great experience! There is no greater joy than to show forth the praises of our God, and reflect to the world the light He’s given us, because that’s what we were created to do. Dressing in feminine, modest apparel is one of the many ways we can do this, and also one of the most powerful.

I have met with many women, mostly young girls, who’s biggest problem with giving up pants was their fear of humiliation. They were afraid of how their friends and family would view them for looking so different. I sympathize with these ladies, and pray that they will get a hold of the Biblical truths on separation from the world, and the joy it brings to a Christian’s life.

1 Peter 2:9 “But ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvellous light;”

Romans12:1-2 “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.”

2 Corinthians 6:17 “Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you.”

The Bible speaks for itself. Different is good, and being separated unto God is the best.

A Warning To Christians.


I know that there are many different reasons women have for either wearing or not wearing pants. I have heard many of the explanations behind each standpoint, and I’ve addressed most of them, but I can by no means judge the motives of each individual I encounter.

Perhaps you’ve read this whole essay and you’re thinking “I’ve been living the Christian life for years, and I’ve never felt the need to practice this.” I understand and respect that. But there is a certain attitude that has plagued the mindset of many of my fellow Christians that I would like for you to be cautious against. Perhaps it doesn’t apply to you, but perhaps it does. It’s the attitude of “How much can I get away with and still technically be living a Christian life?”. Of course, that’s not usually how people phrase it in their minds. Usually, they begin by asking questions like “Is this really a sin?”, or more specifically for women “Is it really a sin to wear pants?”

I’ve known far too many Christian women who lived many years of their lives wearing skirts, and then stopped because they asked that question. Not because they didn’t truly feel led to do it at one point, but often because they started becoming more concerned with how the world was viewing them, or how they viewed themselves than how God viewed them.

The issue with this mindset is that it starts with something seemingly harmless like dress standards, and then it keeps going. Pretty soon you’re listening to worldly music that dishonors God and asking “Is this really a sin?”. Then before you know it, you’re finding reasons why it’s okay to miss church, drink alcohol, or have improper conduct with the opposite sex, all because you started becoming concerned with how much you can get away with, and the process often starts with something like dress standards. This is not the attitude of a Christian. The attitude of a Christian ought to be “How much can I do to please my Savior?” Please do not go down the wrong road.

Let God Lead You.

Finally, as I’ve said before, my purpose in writing this is not to offend or insult anyone, nor is it to boast about my own Christian achievements. I am a far cry from the perfect Christian, and still, have a long way to go, but I humbly desire to share with others some things that the Bible and the Christian experience has taught me. I pray that I have not given anyone the impression that I believe a woman cannot have a walk with God or be used by God unless she wears skirts all the time; that would be very untrue. However, I do firmly believe that it has been a wonderful and powerful practice in my own life for all the reasons given, and I believe it can do the same for any of my sisters in Christ.

If you’re not sure what God would have you do, consider what the Bible teaches, and pray about it. The Holy Spirit has a way of telling us what kind of changes need to be made in our lives when we’re ready for it. But don’t change your standards just to fit in with the Christian crowd, or to simply appear to have convictions that aren’t sincere. The motivation behind every principle a Christian follows should stem from their walk with God and their desire to please Him.

Psalm 139:23-24 “Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting.”

Have a blessed day!

-Grace Raab


  1. I appreciation your convictions but don’t make a doctrine out of it. The silence in bible days ess toes of materials…pants weren’t an option. I know some dear ladieswith the same convictions who take mens jeans and turn them inti skirts…..hmmmm…..I have often been asked if I was a Christian put in public and most of the times I was wearing pants although I love to wear my dresses as well. Let the love of God in you flow out of you and follow His leading….I have also know Christian ladies who will only wear pants who I would have to look hard for the love of God in them. His love in our lives is the best witnessing tool we have.

  2. I mean this in the nicest way, but as I was reading your blog I noticed a few things. I don’t usually comment on blogs and I was going to ignore it, but after thinking about for hours, I realized you needed to hear this 1. You seem quite prideful of your modesty. It’s almost like you wear your modesty as a trophy and that strikes me as unGodly. 2. You also seem vain. It’s like wearing your skirts, not cutting your hair, and being able to march around the mall with other ladies who look like you makes you feel like you are better than ladies who wear pants. The comments you made about women who wear pants are judgmental in the worst way. I wouldn’t want to be friends with you or have you minister to me because you seem uppity in your faith. Humble yourself a little and then revisit this blog post.

    • May I remind you, the Bible also says “to step out from among them and be separate” and that’s just what she is trying to do. Also, she is not wearing skirts pridefully, she is wearing skirts as she feels needed and I personally I feel that there are people who may wear skirts pridefully but there are also people who don’t. With all do respect, who’s to say that she is being pridefull if you don’t even know her? No one knows for sure if she’s doing it in vain or pride, that’s between her and the good Lord above. All I’m saying is, I don’t think anyone should be making conclusions about people without knowing the full story. And you, same as me will never know, only her and God. And if she is doing it then it’s her responsibility to take it to God and get her life straighten out. No one else’s. For now I would just take her word on it.

    • Wow. After reading this, you’ve made quite a few judgments. You have judged the author to be prideful, ungodly, vain, unfriendly, uppity, etc.

      I love how people always consider those who try to live modestly as God commands as “judgmental.” Then, end up revealing who the truly judgmental people are.

      I can tell you from experience, that my daughter who wears skirts (her choice, not mine) has been berated by people like you for her choices. She has come home in tears at their judgmental attitudes. She didn’t approach them. She didn’t call them out. She was literally minding her own business. It amazes me that the worldly girls are more impressed at her convictions than so-called Christian girls who are under obvious conviction.

    • That’s funny, because one of the very first things God convicted me of when I first repented and came to Christ was my clothing. I appreciated the article very much. I do not think she was being condescending or uppity. I think maybe it’s just hard for you to hear the truth?

  3. Since the name of this web page (INDEPENDENT Baptist) where this very good article with reasoning for dressing like a lady and not a man is published – why are people saying we Independent Baptist have to be in bondage? I guess they have to find someone out of their denomination to argue with rather commenting on their own pages? Women should dress like women and Biblically there are no women’s pants so,,,,

    • As an Independent Baptist since 1975….I do not know where all of this comes from! We want to live “Christ Like” We need not argue on dress and hair…..There is too many important things to think on other than this..Let’s dress modest and try to live so people can see Christ in us by the way we treat people…..Let’s win souls for Christ!!

  4. I have 2 million things to say to all three of your points. But I want to reference your remarks about men or other people looking at you and automatically thinking “Christian.” You are wrong. I know from experience. I was raised the same way as you. I took a job at Target after moving out of my parents’ home. I was still scared to stray away from their beliefs so I wore skirts for the first month. After scaling a few ladders with men around and the fact that I always thought those rules were stupid, I started wearing Khaki pants. Afterwards, I was actually able to build relationships with my coworkers and they told me they always thought I was Amish. They were intimidated by me… Never once did “Christian” cross their mind. So, I am sorry to break the news to you but men aren’t avoiding you because you aren’t “easy” but because they think you’re Amish. And you aren’t being a good influence on the world by being a shamefaced woman. You are scaring them all away.

  5. Just a few simple points, because I could write an essay debunking this almost entirely….but for sake of time, I will just leave you with a few thoughts to work through yourselves –
    1. Modesty is modesty, no matter if a woman wears a skirt or pants.
    2. If a woman can be so immodest in a pair of pants, what about men? Men obviously have more to “keep modest” in a pair of pants than a woman! (Don’t think I have to be vulgar for you to get what I am saying here)
    3. If you look into the history of pants, they were actually invented to KEEP women more modest!
    4. As one raised in a fundamental holiness church, the biggest problem with women and girls in skirts, are the “easy access” it gives to the perverts who hide behind a facade of religion to cover their filthy sins of molesting.
    5. Why do women have to “stand apart” with a “separate” look, to be identified as a Christian, but the men never have to look any different than worldly men?
    6. I certainly would never wear a pair of WOMENS PANTS, because there is a DEFINITE distinction between the two!

    I could go on and on, but The best point mentioned above, is letting GOD lead you! Not a church, it’s rules, the preacher, or any other human. God is always faithful to those who truly desire to follow Him.
    Have a blessed day in Christ!

    • Absolutely! Especially points 4 and 5!

      And just for the record, I’m an IFB woman and the idea of wearing skirts/dresses all the time is absolutely ludicrous to me.

    • The article states: “Ladies, when you dress in a way that reveals the form of your body, you’re not only inviting men to lust after you, you’re putting yourself in danger.”

      Bless the author’s heart!

      No, no, no. A man who is interested in flirting may pay more attention to women who he finds attractive, including women who are dressed in a way that is appealing to that particular man. But rapists don’t care whether you are modest or not. They just care if you’re an easy target. Clothing that is “easy access” makes you an easier target. They like long hair, especially pony tails, because it’s easy for them to grab. They like skirts and dress because easy access. Rape and child abuse are rampant in Muslim, Amish, and yes even IFB communities. Just do the research. I’m not against modest clothes, but modest clothes don’t keep you safe.

      If you want to keep yourself safe, learn karate. Wear pants with a belt that is hard to unbuckle, or pants with a pull-string that you can tie in a tight knot and tuck into you waistband. Wear shoes that you can run in. If you have long hair, wear it up in a bun or a large butterfly clip (which actually looks quite feminine, FYI). Have a serious, confident demeanor when you are out in public (you can do this while still being kind and/or professional). If you still insist on wearing a skirt, please, please — wear something more than a slip and panties underneath! Basketball shorts with a pull-string tied in a double knot are a good choice. And please, please, make sure that the hemline of you skirt is full enough for you to run, walk with a full stride, and kick (no long straight skirts that tie your ankles together, please).

      Hope that helps. Be safe.

      • So basically maybe we should all just shave our hair off so the perverts cant grab our hair then. And wear skinny jeans so tight they cant get our pants off and be black belts so we can kick butt lol what a life! I would rather dress for Jesus the way he intended us to do and grow my hair for his glory and take a chance he will help me when a time comes someone perverted is after me that he will protect me by faith. I may have missed something but I don’t think she said anything about the type of clothes someone you think should wear for protection, she is just trying to make people understand why we wear what we wear and believe me we also go through a lot of people making fun of us as a child up.

    • Obviously you make statements, but can’t prove one of them. Your statements are clearly an indication of what’s in your heart. I would suggest a triple by-pass. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks…

  6. I am just curious how you believe this would be possible to comply with while working with horses, and riding them for hours? You can only sit side saddle for a short period before you cause additional pain in your back. This is one topic I have struggled with working in a Christian Counseling Center where horses are used to help the client heal mental, physically, and most importantly Spiritually. I would love a few ideas.

    • Oneness Pentecostals believe the Bible says you shouldn’t cut your hair not that they tell you you can’t. They get the scripture from I Cor. 11:10-15.

  7. This guy I know promotes standards like this and then he falls asleeps during the preaching, where is his standards at?

  8. With the Hair Issue long uncut hair gives her power with God and the Angels. It is a covering. I suggest people read Daniel Seagraves book titled Hair length in Bible.

    Also pants tend to show off a women’s figure. In today’s world women we need to protect ourselves.

  9. We need to obey God rather than man, uncut hair is a crown of glory for a woman why would she want to cut off her crown. Skirts with appropriate length are a godly women reflection of her love for God and respect to man, why would I want to show all my body lines by wearing pands like a man. People in our society do not want to please God, they want to wear what is in style, styles make women show almost everything and exposes their bodies which causes man to lust after them.

  10. I did a historical study on churches and religions once and EVERYTHING church at one time taught against wearing pamts for woman. If you dig deep enough you will see that churches always changed to appease the people. THE BIBLE IS THE SAME YESTERDAY AND FOREVER. …so I don’t see any reason for us to change our beliefs

  11. Didn’t men wear robes? So to follow your logic, women should wear pants? Please be very careful that you are not holding onto the law and forget Ephesians 2.

  12. Striving Together has a great book on the subject. Another book graciously written is “what in the world should I wear?” By kathy Corely.

  13. I don’t know if you’ll ever see this, but the nowhere in the bible does it say the women must wear skirts; it also doesn’t say men should wear pants. Your while article is the epitome of legalism, and you’re basing your faith on man’s tradition, not on God and the bible.

    • Deut. 22:5 is the reference for differentiating between a man and woman in what they wear. Before WWI women wore dresses even in the fields of work. Per this scripture a man should not wear that that – the key word is – “pertaineth”. When you go to a public restroom, what differentiates the women’s bathroom and the men’s? A figure of a woman in a skirt. Plus God calls it an abomination if you wear something that “pertains” to the opposite gender. The word abomination means He actually is disgusted by it, hates it, loathes it and so forth. It also means He will never change His mind on the subject. This is just an incredibly short explanation.

    • The Bible doesn’t specifically speak about a lot of things but it covers most things in principle…the principle here is a differentiation between the sexes.
      In our society men wear pants and only in recent years women have worn them as well but traditionally women wear skirts/dresses. That’s the point of the artifice.
      Legalism is depending on your works to get you to heaven…this article is not legalism. 😉
      Enjoyed it- ty!

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